Comments on: This Is Why You Suck: At Building Relationships

By: Ryan Beale

Ryan Beale — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 02:48:19 +0000

Great Post, Kristy! If more people would only treat “online” relationship building like “offline” relationship building. It seems easy, but you are right, many people suck at building relationships. People need to just be real and normal.

By: Kristy Bolsinger

Kristy Bolsinger — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:17:46 +0000

Thanks Sabrina!! I totally agree with you. In traditional marketing they say it costs ten time more to acquire a new customer than it does to keep one. I’d be willing to bet the same ratio could be applied to building and maintaining relationships.

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By: Sabrina Gibson

Sabrina Gibson — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 03:06:54 +0000

Are you my lost sister? Hee hee I love how you tell it straight and to the point. I did a couple of “gulps” and is she pointing the finger at me? I realize I could do a better job at interacting. The cost of meeting someone is pretty high and the cost of keeping up is low especially with Social Networking. I am excited to share ideas and read more on your blog.

By: Christopher

Christopher — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 00:07:42 +0000

Enjoyed the piece you have enveloped the essence of the online relationship.

Relationships require more than one, but isn’t limited to two – its social media – be sociable.

Nicely crafted piece.
All the best,
Christopher

By: Kristy Bolsinger

Kristy Bolsinger — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:57:58 +0000

@Virginia – I love love love that: “Content isn’t king anymore. Conversation is king. Content is just something to talk about.”

@Lyndon – Indeed my friend, authenticity is KEY!

By: Lyndon Reid

Lyndon Reid — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:00:03 +0000

Awesome post Kristy.

A rule I try to live by is be yourself – whether your online or offline. I think everyone appreciates authenticity. And if being yourself involves being a good, happy person the relationships should follow

By: Kristy Bolsinger

Kristy Bolsinger — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 22:55:29 +0000

@Pete – Not being familiar with your particular situation I don’t want to over step here, but have you considered maintaining a personal account separate from that of an employers? This would allow you to keep your followers and relationships when it’s time to move on.
@Lee – I’m glad you found value here! It really is true that relationships are where “it’s” at. I think the old ways of sales are being moved to the wayside. Well, the old ways of doing a lot of things are I’d say. It’s all about the connections.

@Kate – So glad to see your happy face over here!! So glad you like it! That’s a big deal in my book

By: Virginia Nussey

Virginia Nussey — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 22:54:38 +0000

Thanks for outlining your tips so elegantly, Kristy. Definitely some good points I’m taking away with me. At SMX East earlier this year Ciaran Norris said something that stuck with me, and which Kate’s comment reminded me of:

“Content isn’t king anymore. Conversation is king. Content is just something to talk about.”

By: Kate Buck

Kate Buck — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 22:07:05 +0000

Kristy, I’ve just been reading your blog for about a week, and I’m loving it. I have to agree with Warren that your style rocks!

They say “content is king” and I don’t argue that, except to say, what I value is relationships, conversation & connection with other humans